When I was a young man I would fall in love with every pretty girl I saw
Unable to see the person as a human being with feelings and thoughts
I was completely mesmerised by the desirable object that person presented.
‘What they were’
Not ‘who they were’
Even if I liked a particular look on a girl
I would be completely crippled by my emotions
My imagination would run wild
Creating a fictional world where I was that girl’s boyfriend
I would imagine holding her hand
Coming home from work with flowers
Holding her in my arms and kissing her
I became attached to this fantasy
Dealing with this meant I was unable to talk to any girl I liked
And risk rejection
To have my fictional world implode.
Brought back to reality.
I learnt the pain of inaction
I would watch time and time again the girl I liked taken away by some other guy that had the courage to do something.
While I was too scared to do anything
Fast-forward I am 28 years old I have the confidence to talk to any girl I want.
Sure I still feel scared from time to time but that is natural.
You are suppose to feel scared, It never goes away
First I see a girls I’m attracted to.
I summon the courage to talk to her.
Then I be myself.
While being myself, I judge whether or not the girl I’m speaking to.
Has any internal qualities worth investing my time into.
I listen to my heart.
Is there a connection?
Now here is the thing.
After talking to and surveying so many girls I’ve come to this conclusion.
A good majority of people in this world have low self-esteem.
I don’t want to go in why or how they have low self-esteem
It’s the reality of the situation
Now people that have bad self-esteem.
Usually detest other’s who are confident and outgoing
There may be a couple of reasons for this behaviour
Sometimes if put in a situation where people are at risk of rejection, looking stupid in front of others or emotional pain in general.
People will hurt you to save themselves.
Other possibilities is that low-self esteem people tend to victimise themselves.
That girl may blame men for her past relationship failures and vice versa
The purpose of this blog is help you avoid these types of people
For a man approaching women in public
Low Self Esteem women will deliver harsh rejections.
Now for advanced type guys these rejections can be great fuel for your growth.
Harsh rejections from the beginning can be detrimental for your growth
Also you want to avoid dating or getting in a relationship with these women.
As they do not believe they are worthy of love and respect and will often self-sabotage.
So here are the signs
1. Has Visible Tattoos
This one I’ve debated over with colleagues but I’ve stuck to my original hypothesis.
People with ‘visible tattoos’ are invested into their ‘social mask’.
Meaning they care alot what other’s think of them.
This is a huge indicator of low self esteem.
2. Smoke Cigarettes
I smoke cigarettes for 9 years and still can’t shake off the habit completely.
Yes I came from a low esteem beginning.
Yes cigarettes mean low esteem.
People that don’t respect their bodies usually don’t respect themselves.
Also they are slave to their emotions and gratification which is a by-product of low self esteem.
3. Drinks Frequently
Same theory as above.
Needs to escape reality because they hate themselves and their lives.
4. Occasionally does Drugs
Again same as above.
Sorry fatties you’re on this list
The body is usually an extension of your mind.
Healthy body = healthy mind
Not always the case I know where those self-centred instagram models.
Their self esteem is garbage too.
But better than a fat person.
6. Wears Revealing Clothes/ Too much Makeup
Women that wear revealing clothes most likely get ‘high’ off the attention of strange men.
Women will argue that this is not the case and they are just doing it to ‘feel good’ about themselves
Same with the makeup
I don’t believe this to be true
7. Uses Snapchat or Instagram Filters in their Photos
Don’t love themselves enough to put up a picture without the added effects.
You will notice this more on Tinder/ Social Media
Low Self Esteem.
8. Doesn’t show their full face in their Photos
Same as above.
9. Looks down or disagrees with you when you compliment them
This is a huge one because sometimes you’ll speak to a girl that shows none of the indicators from above.
Can keep the conversation flowing.
Then you go to sincerely compliment her and then …..BAM…..low self esteem.
Deep down doesn’t believe she possess those qualities.
10. Grew up with a single parents or unhealthy childhood.
It’s a subconscious thing.
You need to good parents to subconsciously copy them.
Understand how to be in relationship yourself.
Happy hunting gentlemen
Most of the time girls don’t reject you
They have already rejected themselves!
Good – Luck!